“Spirit is the food and drink of the Universe” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers
Image by © Camila Gargantini
An Interview with Tashamae
Q. What is the best memory you have from a previous birthday?
A. My best memory probably comes from my 5th birthday. My parents were both military growing up, so we moved a few times. We had just moved and I was convinced my family had forgotten about my birthday. It was late at night when my mom and older brother surprised me with a homemade ALL PURPLE cake. Purple icing, purple lifesavers, the whole deal. I remember feeling so loved that during the move my mom still found the time to make me a homemade cake in my absolute favourite colour.
Q. How about the worst? And why?
A. It would have to be a toss up between my 7th birthday or my 13th birthday. 7th birthday: For some reason “Birthday Bumps” were popular that year and I was not a fan. 13th birthday: My mom planned a really great party for my friends & I. She rented a hall, had music and decorated it with all my baby clothes. I was at the age of trying to “be cool”. My guy friends were inappropriate and my birthday ended early. I felt really bad for all the effort she put into it for it to get ruined.
Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that surprised you most?
A. I can’t say I received a gift that really surprised me but my 15th birthday definitely stands out. I used to bus to middle school and I would arrive way before all my friends. I remember telling them that 8:18 am I would turn a year older and that I was a little upset about being at school alone during that. When I arrived a school that morning all my friends were there early to celebrate with me! And to top it off, when I got home my mom had filled my room FULL of balloons!
Q. Is there a food or dish that you insist on eating on your birthday?
A. Without a doubt spaghetti.
Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?
A. I believe in having any reason to celebrate. Whether it be an occasion or for a person, birthday’s are a great way to do both! They are also a great way to bring family & friends together. Everyone should feel special on their birthday.
Q. Do you have any traditions or thing you always do to celebrate a birthday? What is it?
A. My mom was amazing at making birthdays magical. We would wake up each morning to handwritten notes on the mirrors and we would finish the day with a homemade themed cake. Now that we are grown up and moved out, she still puts pocket mirrors with little handwritten notes in our birthday cards. I am currently pregnant and I plan on carrying on these special traditions, they help make the heart whole.