“The naming of some things as important and others as unimportant is only a value judgement, a product of human ego” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers

Selene Grasby © Lindsay Lauckner-Gundlock

Image © Lindsay Lauckner

An Interview with Selene

Q. What is the best memory you have from a previous birthday?

A. This past year, I went to Quebec City with my husband and a few friends for my 30th birthday. We were able to spend time exploring old Quebec City, which has a very distinct European feel. We enjoyed espressos from local coffee shops every morning, as well as rich cuisine and fine wines in the evening.

Q. How about the worst? And why?

A. When I turned 25, I had a quarter century crisis and I didn’t want to even acknowledge my birthday. At that time in my life, I was not where I wanted to be, I had no idea what my future looked like and so it felt like there was nothing to celebrate. Luckily, I had a very supportive group of friends who were able to empathize with me (over a few glasses of wine) as they were going through similar situations.

Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that surprised you most?

A. One present that surprised me and that sticks out in my mind is when I received a bicycle for my tenth birthday. I remember being excited that I could start exploring my small world on my own, and gain some independence. I was never satisfied staying in one place and so a bicycle meant a small glimpse at freedom.

Q. Is there a food or dish that you insist on eating on your birthday?

A. Any birthday would not be complete without a dessert of some sort! Usually, I ask for a cheesecake as my birthday treat.

Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?

A. The most important aspect of celebrating any birthday is having the people who you love and care about to help you mark the occasion. Whether it’s one person or twenty, having someone to be there with you through your milestones in life makes the transitions much easier.

Q. Do you have any traditions or thing you always do to celebrate a birthday? What is it?

A. I don’t really have any specific traditions, other than gathering with friends and family for some gifts and treats. I suppose I’ve been trying to start a tradition of going on vacation around my birthday each year, however I’m not sure if my husband will buy into it.