“See first what is directly before you” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers
Image © Lindsay Lauckner
An Interview with Melissa
Q. What is your best memory/moment from one of your past birthdays?
A. My best memory from a past birthday was in first year university and my new university friend threw me a surprise birthday party. It was so unexpected because I hand’t known them that long but it solidified our friendship and made me feel blessed to have made such thoughtful new friends.
Q. How about the worst? And why?
A. My worst memory is when my boyfriend of 5 years didn’t buy me the watch that I asked for because he thought it was too expensive. It really made me feel like he didn’t care about my happiness and reinforced that he didn’t care about the things that I wanted and that were important to me.
Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that most surprised you?
A. My brother mailed me “The Joy of Cooking” for my birthday. It was unexpected since we didn’t really buy each other birthday gifts anymore. It was also a book I had debated buying myself for years so it was a very pleasant surprise. Also, who doesn’t love getting mail?
Q. Is there one food or dish that you insist in eating during your birthday celebration?
A. This is probably obvious but birthday cake!
Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?
A. The most important aspect is being with people that you love and make you feel special on our birthday.
Q. Do you/your family/culture have any traditions/rituals/ceremonies that are performed to celebrate birthdays? What is it?
A. Not really other than traditional birthday events such as gift giving and birthday cake.