“The mind not only comes with a personal computer, but also a modem for connecting with the rest of the universe” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers

Krista Webster by © Camila Gargantini

“What can I say about Krista – she is such a determined person, passionate about what she believes in and yet gentle about the things that are meaningful to her. We first met to discuss shooting for the project early in this Spring and I let her guide where she wanted to go with the look and feel of the image. I was ecstatic when she showed me what she had in mind and super excited to have Paul Venoit join us with his make up and hair skills. We both stepped out of our comfort zones and I think the image speaks for itself. Thank you for allowing me to capture you in a vulnerable, yet powerful way.” – Camila G

Image by © Camila Gargantini

An Interview with Krista

Q. What is the best memory you have from a previous birthday?

A. My 30th birthday. I have an eclectic mix of friends whom I have ‘collected’ over my lifetime, and most don’t know each other directly. For this birthday, my wish was that everyone come together as a celebration of new friendship.

Q. How about the worst? And why?

A. I didn’t really love my 40th, to be honest. It wasn’t because I was getting older. I just didn’t emotionally feel ready to be this ‘grown up.’ I have never had traditional expectations of age and what I need to accomplish by when, which is possibly why I also have never jumped into marriage or kids just because you are supposed to. I am driven by how I feel about doing something. And I wasn’t feeling 40 :)

Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that surprised you most?

A. I am a great gift giver, but I don’t love receiving gifts as much a giving them. I love the hunt of finding a meaningful gift for someone else and seeing their reaction when they open it. That said, when I turned 16, my grandmother gave me the most beautiful diamond and platinum ring that was made from the tie pin of her favourite uncle. My relationship with my grandmother had always been a bit strange — strained really because of her rejection of being considered a traditional grandmother. But when she gave me this piece, I knew how much she cherished it and it reinforced how much she cared for me, even though she had a hard time expressing it under normal circumstances.

Q. Is there a food or dish that you insist on eating on your birthday?

A. There isn’t one I insist on eating for my birthday, but now and again for birthdays my mother prepares my all time favourite homemade casserole of mac & cheese. No one else makes it like she does and I know when she serves it for me, it comes with a lot of love baked right in.

Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?

A. It is about celebrating life. The idea that we are allowed to wake up everyday, never knowing what is next, but allowed to also guide our own path, is the most wonderful gift.

Q. Do you have any traditions or thing you always do to celebrate a birthday? What is it?

A. As I have gotten older, I always try to secretly ‘treat’ myself to something special from a great dinner or a piece of jewelry that has special meaning. And then I make a conscious effort on my birthday to ‘pay-it-forward’ to someone else through a charitable act. It might be something as simple as giving money to a homeless person. But it is my way of thanking the universe for giving me the opportunity to be present — another year older.