“Giving others more space leaves oneself freer to breathe” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers

Guy Gonsalves ©Cyndal Lorch

I luv Guy. He’s fun, quirky, creative, smart and overall a really great person to be around. Since he’s into graphics and gaming, my first experience with Virtual Reality was with one of his creations, and let me say, this man has talent. Anyone who knows him would look at this photo and probably think to themselves, “Yup, that’s Guy”. I don’t think I’ve seen him anything but happy. Even when he’s mad, he still seems happy. Thank you Guy for being a part of this project. :) – Cyndal Lorch

Image © Cyndal Lorch

An Interview with Guy

Q. What is your best memory/moment from one of your past birthdays?

A. My wife and I are only two months apart birthday wise, so we had one big get together for our dirty 30’s. My friends and I were comfortably in pj pants and hoodies drinking shitty beer. My wife and her friends were dressed all burlesque-like sipping martinis. We had a photo booth where my wife thought it was cute to tug on my pj’s pull string during one of the photos. Everyone saw my junk.

Q. How about the worst? And why?

A. While I do treasure this birthday memory, it was still a traumatic experience for me at the time. When I had turned 10, my grandpa took me on sci-fi space shooter right next door to the CN Tower. Before we entered the ride, I was told by one of the workers there that my eyeball could potentially pop. We sat at the front of the ride, buckled in. I was still crying after we got off.

Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that most surprised you?

A. I really wanted Super Mario Bros 3 for Nintendo one year, so you can imagine my disappointment opening up my present to see Dr.Mario. What really threw me off into thinking I got Super Mario Bros initially, was how similar the packaging for both those games were. I was heart broken. Dr.Mario later became one of my favourite games on Nintendo.

Q. Is there one food or dish that you insist in eating during your birthday celebration?

A. Nope, I’m a pig, I’ll eat anything. Though bacon is an essential food group in my home so I suppose its presence is a must.

Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?

A. Being happy with where you are and how you got there.

Q. Do you/your family/culture have any traditions/rituals/ceremonies that are performed to celebrate birthdays? What is it?

A. If you consider cramming as many friends and family into every square inch of space you have to spare, with just enough space left for booze and cake a tradition, then yes.