“In the human sexual arena, roles can be quickly reversed” from The Secret Language of Birthdays by Gary Goldschneider & Joost Elffers

Caroline Bacher-Goldsmith by © Jeannette Breward

“For Caroline’s image, I knew we had to incorporate her incredible talent. Caroline crafts incredibly beautiful, one of a kind jewelry using gorgeous stones. And she means business – she is a GIA Graduate Gemologist – a title she earned at the Gemological Institute of America in California – one of the most prestigious labs in the world. They even valued the Hope Diamond there! In order to gain her title, she had to score 100% on her final – pretty impressive I’d say! She loves handpicking beautiful stones to create her award winning pieces. Caroline is all glam in this photo and I absolute love it!! You can see her work at carolinebacher.com” – Jeannette B

Image © Jeannette Breward

An Interview with Caroline

Q. What is the best memory you have from a previous birthday?

A. I’ve had so many exceptional birthdays and great memories from them! Pinning one down is a bit tricky! I think my 15th birthday is especially memorable–it fell on the Victoria Day weekend (the official start of Summer in Muskoka, where I was raised) so many of my friends who I hadn’t seen since last Labour Day were around to celebrate with me. I remember the weather was especially beautiful and my best friend, Tara, and I were out in her boat. I felt so happy and free being on the verge of adult-hood and so positive about the future. 

Q. How about the worst? And why?

A. My 31st birthday, while not in itself the worst, definitely brings a tear to my eye in retrospect; my Grandmother called to wish me a Happy Birthday across many miles. I’d suspected she was ill in our conversations prior, but not the extent of her illness–she was a very private, stoic woman in that way. She passed away a few days later, so that was the last time we spoke. Unbeknownst to me at the time, she was in extraordinary pain, but she put on a brave voice–I guess she didn’t want her family to worry about her and just wanted us to enjoy our last bit of time with her. It makes me misty that she cared so much to make sure she’d wish me a Happy Birthday while she was going thru such a difficult time. I inherited this Polar Bear rug from her shortly after she died, when I flew out to attend her funeral.

Q. What was the present you’ve received for your birthday that surprised you most?

A. My boyfriend at the time of my 22 birthday surprised me with a weekend getaway at a beautiful resort near my hometown! He’ told me that we were going to visit my family (which we also did). It was a wonderful surprise, except that it snowed on my birthday that year–a not so welcome surprise! But the trip itself was lovely–such a sweet thing to surprise me with. 

Q. Is there a food or dish that you insist on eating on your birthday?

A. When I was little, my Mum would always get soda from the Pop Shop for my birthday parties. Whenever I see it these days, which is rare, it reminds me of my childhood birthdays. These days, I don’t know if I insist on eating anything specific for my birthday, but I do enjoying out for a nice lunch or dinner, complete with wine: Le Select Bistro in Toronto is one of my favourite places to celebrate at, and I’ve celebrated quite a few birthdays there! 

Q. What do you believe is the most important aspect of celebrating a birthday?

A. I think of a birthday as being a “personal new year”. It’s a good day to reflect on the past year and make plans for the year ahead. It’s a time to celebrate the individual, and be around family and friends. I love to be acknowledged and celebrated on my birthday and it’s important for me to celebrate those who are close to me in the same way! I love to select (or sometimes create) meaningful gifts and to thank my friends and family for being themselves whenever their birthdays roll around. 

Q. Do you have any traditions or thing you always do to celebrate a birthday? What is it?

A. In my family’s culture (my parents are both from Germany), it’s considered very bad luck to wish someone a Happy Birthday, or receive a birthday gift before the actual day! Sort of tempting fate, if you will. If you can’t celebrate on the actual day, any celebration or well-wishing is always done after the fact, never before. I was born exactly one minute after midnight, into May 20th by the hospital’s clock, so my family always knew when it was time to wish me a Happy Birthday.